Thursday, July 22, 2010

Does absence make the heart grow fonder?

J and I have only been apart three times the past five and a half years - 1st time was about 5 years ago when he went to Philadelphia for a 3-day work-related training, 2nd time was almost two years ago on the night before our wedding, and the last time was a year ago the day before we took Kayla home from the hospital. So you see, I'm used to having my J around. Oh, and did I mention that we have worked in the same place for these 5 plus years? I know, people ask all the time how we do it. How can I possibly live with him and work with him. That's seriously 24/7 of being together.

Well things are changing. He left yesterday for his new job which is about an hour and a half away. He is only coming home during his days off. The arrangement is temporary until I am able to relocate where he is and this is only happening once I find a job. The situation we are in is on the opposite side of the spectrum of what we were used to. We went from 24/7 of being together to now being apart and only seeing other every so often.

We knew when he accepted this job that this is going to be our temporary norm. I don't have to like it but I am supporting him 100%. This opportunity is great for his career and his ultimate goal. For now, we shall see if absence does make the heart grow fonder.

Friday, July 9, 2010


I get tired just thinking about them but I know that these are good changes. All within a week - J took a job offer down in Norfolk, we decided to make a move to VA Beach and Kayla turned one!

These are all exciting changes but moving makes me nervous. What makes me even more nervous is trying to find a job. I'm so scared that I won't find one. I'm also so scared that we are only going to see J very little while he's down in Norfolk and we are here. Can I really be a single parent on some days? Yikes. I get sad thinking about it. I'm sure I can juggle work and being a parent but what makes this whole situation hard is that J and Kayla will not see each other everyday anymore. I know it's only temporary but still!

Our plan is for me to stay here until I can find a job. The quicker I find a job - the quicker we can move. Worst case scenario is I don't find a job by a certain date and we still move.

So yes, lots of changes lately. Our household has been a little busy as you can see and I still need to work on a 1st birthday post.